I have already posted an article about marriage but I now intend to expand it by writing about marriage through the numerous articles I’ve collected on the subject over the last 30 years plus.
I have taken a couple of Scripture verses to outline the standard first given to man in the Bible because one needs a starting point when discussing what is required of man and woman starting out to become one through marriage. There are thousands of views on what should be the standard of marriage, arranged marriages or marriages for love and marriages of necessity. For the last few centuries the historical concept of marriage for the Western wold has been a Christian view. Other cultures have their traditions but most incorporate the basic understanding of a man and woman uniting. It is my hope to bring you the views of so many people who have written about marriage in newspapers, magazines, pamphlets and books and collected by me for over 30 years.
I will attempt to put the articles in some order so that it doesn’t become one long page.
There are many people who would prefer to live life as a single but in the first book of the Bible God made a statement.
“18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” 19 Now out of the ground the LORD God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature that was its name. 20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. 21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said,“This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.” Genesis 2:4-25 ESV – The Creation of Man and Woman, Bible Gateway https://www.biblegateway.com › passage ›
“As the Lord Jesus says, in the beginning “God made them male and female.” He created them equal yet different, and he created them this way so that they could be joined together in the covenant of marriage. In Genesis 2:18 we read that it was not good for man to be alone, so God gave mankind the gift of marriage.” Jan 22, 2019 Genesis 2- Marriage – Chalmers Presbyterian Church
New King James Version Matthew 19:1-10 Marriage and Divorce
1 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. 2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there.
3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?”
4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
7 They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”
8 He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”
Religion
The origins of marriage
The institution of marriage is now the subject of a bitter national debate. How did marriage begin and why?
“The first recorded evidence of marriage ceremonies uniting one woman and one man dates from about 2350 B.C., in Mesopotamia. Over the next several hundred years, marriage evolved into a widespread institution embraced by the ancient Hebrews, Greeks, and Romans. But back then, marriage had little to do with love or with religion.” https.//theweek.com religion BY THE WEEK STAFF LAST UPDATED JANUARY 8, 2015
This article starts off by telling what anthropologists believe about cohabitation of humans and how the Institute of marriage came about and how it was basically women who were the victims of the system. I personally don’t agree with their conclusions but you can read the article for yourself. Like any system abuse can be perceived especially when viewing it with a presentism mindset.
I outlined the Bible standard for marriage yet the truth be told not everyone in the Bible adheres to what was supposed to be the accepted practice. One story is about a Samaritan woman. The other more speculative than true considering who they’re trying to bring into their thinking and what the ramifications would be such as the perpetual virgin Mary.
Jesus Talks With a Samaritan Woman NIV
JOHN 4: 16 He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.”
17 “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. 18 The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” https://www.biblegateway.com/
The latest off the wall story is that Jesus was married, which would negate the biblical narrative of salvation.
‘Proof’ Jesus was married found on ancient papyrus that mentions how son of God spoke of his wife and Mary Magdalene
A recently uncovered fragment of ancient papyrus makes the explosive suggestion that Jesus and Mary Magdalene were man and wife, researchers say.
The 8cm by 4cm fragment supports an undercurrent in Christian thought that undermines centuries of Church dogma by suggesting the Christian Messiah was not celibate.
The centre of the fragment contains the bombshell phrase where Jesus, speaking to his disciples, says ‘my wife’, which researchers believe refers to Magdalene.
What type of marriage do you have, is it open for discussion and speculation or does it testify for itself? One wasn’t married and the other had a secret marriage, one is in the bible the other on a piece of paper of questionable authenticity.
By DAMIEN GAYLE PUBLISHED: 20:07 GMT, 18 September 2012 UPDATED: 09:29 GMT, 19 September 2012
In the articles I will be presenting, throughout this article I will attempt to say whether they are speculation or truthful to the best of my ability, what is considered theory I will attempt to point out.
Health Center
RELATIONSHIPS
Will your marriage last?
Why some women are more likely to divorce
No one can predict for certain whether a married couple will live happily ever after or not—one in three marriages ends in divorce, according to 1981 figures from Statistics Canada. But research at the University of Western Ontario in London may help indicate which couples are more likely than others to split up.
Sociologist Tattamangalam Balakrishnan and his colleagues recently studied almost 4,000 married, separated and divorced women, ages 18 to 49. The results suggest that whether you are more likely to stay married or divorce may be related to such factors as whether you lived with your partner before marrying, the age when you wed, your religious practices and where you live.
Thirty-five percent of the women who lived with their partner before marriage were expected to divorce within 15 years after the wedding, compared to 19 percent of those who didn’t cohabit premaritally. Balakrishnan believes that those who cohabit before marrying have fewer traditional values than those who don’t; if their marriage becomes unhappy, they may feel freer to divorce.
Although some couples maintain that living together is good practice for married life, Toronto family therapist Resa Eisen says this doesn’t always hold true. Some live-in lovers tend to reveal only their best side to their partner and avoid dealing with conflict for fear of losing the relationship. For example, a woman may overlook her partner’s tendency to take her for granted while they’re living together, then expect him to change once they’re married, but he is unlikely to do so because a negative pattern has already been established.
On the other hand, Eisen says living together can be a constructive experience if you and your partner are honest with each other, talking openly about problems that arise while you adjust to cohabiting.
The survey also found that women who marry young are more likely to divorce than those who marry later in life. Twenty-six percent of the women who were brides at 19 or younger were expected to divorce within 15 years, whereas 7 percent of those who married between ages 30 and 34 were expected to divorce within 10 years.
According to Eisen, women under 20 tend to be less prepared to cope with the realities of marriage—such as finances, the demands of a home and/or career. In addition, young women—and men—are still closely tied to their own family, which can lead to marriage problems; e.g., a teen bride is likely to be influenced by her parents’ wishes and values and may expect to spend holidays with them, whereas her husband may want the pair to be with his family or spend time together away from relatives.
Becoming pregnant before marriage also increases the chances of divorce, the survey indicates. Within 15 years after marrying, 37 percent of the women who gave birth while single were expected to divorce, and so were 30 percent of those who were pregnant when they got married, compared to 18 percent of those who didn’t become pregnant before marriage. Eisen says that premarital pregnancy creates many tensions that can threaten a marriage. For example, partners may feel trapped or resentful if they were married under pressure—maybe one partner talked the other into marrying, or their families pressed them to wed. And the immediate arrival of a baby interferes with the “honeymoon period,” when partners learn how to relate and negotiate as wife and husband.
The survey also found that 47 percent of nonreligious women—those who attended church rarely or not at all—were expected to divorce within 25 years after marrying, compared to 18 percent of those who attended church at least once a week. Balakrishnan says religious women tend to be more traditional and conservative in their values and less likely to accept divorce.
When it came to a comparison of urban and rural women, it was found that 24 percent of women living in large cities were expected to divorce within 15 years after marrying, compared to about 10 to 18 percent of women living in smaller cities or rural areas. According to Balakrishnan, urban marriages may flounder more often because city dwellers tend to be more emotionally isolated than those in small or rural communities, where families tend to remain closer and offer members support. Urban women are also more likely to work outside the home and are financially better able to leave an unhappy marriage than women who work in the home and depend on their husband for economic support.
Both Balakrishnan and Eisen concede that divorce is a painful difficult experience. But Balakrishnan maintains that it is not always a bad move: many people who divorce feel happier and go on to develop more satisfying relationships. Although many marriages remained intact in the past, they weren’t necessarily happy, he says. Now, people feel freer to end a bad marriage, and the marriages that do survive are more likely to be good. EVELYNE MICHAELS
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Chatelaine/November 1987
I have included the psychology report from chatelaine on marriage, but as with any sociology study there are many psychology reports to be viewed and possibly included in articles that report similar or different findings all expressing what they have discovered from their studies of marriage. I personally have not reviewed the positive and the negatives of each of the different scenarios that were presented in the article due to time that it would take to verify the presented results or theories.
I will end this post with a word about Betty Friedan who embraced not only psychology and journalism, as well as socialism which she included in her writing. Her take on marriage from her books will be introduced at a later time under various topics. Below is an introduction to her education and the ultimatum which led to change her education without contributing to a relationship. From all my reading about Betty Friedan the young man that was a physicist was never named and it would be good if anyone has a take on what he thought about their relationship.
In 1942, Friedan graduated summa cum laude (highest honors) with a bachelor’s degree in psychology. She then moved on to doctoral studies in 1943, accepting a psychology internship at the University of California at Berkeley, in Berkeley, California. At Berkeley, Friedan worked with psychologist Erik Erikson, who established the psychosocial development theory, which postulates that humans undergo an ordered sequence of eight stages of development from birth to death. Friedan states that her boyfriend at the time, who was a physicist, was jealous of her success at Berkeley, so he issued an ultimatum. Friedan had to either cease her pursuit of an internship in psychology or end their relationship, so she decided to abandon her studies at Berkeley. Arizona State University Embryo Project Encyclopedia https://embryo.asu.edu/pages/betty-friedan
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